"this is the porcupine's dilemma: how to get close without getting hurt. this is our dilemma, too. everyone of us carries our owl little arsenal. our barbs have names like rejection, condemnation, resentment, arrogance, selfishness, envy, contempt. (...) we, too, find ourselves hurting (and being hurt by) those we long to be closest to." - john ortberg (in, everybody's normal 'til you get to know them)
